Forget spending hours researching memorable gift options for your boyfriend. This is the most thoughtful one-month anniversary gift you could ever get your man! And most women have NO IDEA what it is…
Before we get started… I want to address any of you who might be thinking “What the heck is a one-month anniversary??”
Believe it or not, a one-month anniversary can be a crucial moment for your new man, and your budding relationship! Women in my community ask me all the time about how to correctly handle gift-giving at this delicate stage.
But rest assured…
In this article I’m going to be answering the question:
“If this one month thing is such a big deal, how can I surprise my new partner with the BEST one-month anniversary gift ever?”
So buckle up and strap yourself in for the best one-month anniversary of your entire life! (Did I hype that up enough? 😉
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The Best One-Month Anniversary Gift Idea Ever!
This question of “What is a good one month anniversary gift for him?” actually gets asked a ton, because many women are worried about finding the perfect gift they can give their man to let him know how they feel, without giving too much.
That’s a pretty delicate balance, but luckily I’ve discovered an absolutely awesome gift that’s guaranteed to make him want more quality time with you!
No it’s not a cute, handwritten note or a beautiful gift made from diamonds… It’s a simple gift, it doesn’t require a card or a gift box, and it doesn’t come at a crazy price!
So what is this exquisite gift? (Drum roll please…)
This amazing anniversary gift is…
Nothing.
Yes, nothing!
You’re probably wondering, how “nothing” is the nice, wonderful gift I was talking about?
Well, because giving your man nothing opens up space for HIM to give to YOU!
Giving you a gift is actually what your man wants more than anything else (if he’s the right guy). This is because your happiness will often beat any sweet, cute, or thoughtful gift you could give him.
Related: 5 Signs He’s Emotionally Healthy
Your man wants to know that he has provided you with happiness by giving you something he has prepared, and that’s what he seeks above all else.
Why You Don’t Want To Give A Gift Too Early…
Since a lot of your man’s fulfillment and happiness in the relationship will depend on the reaction he can create for you, he doesn’t receive gifts from you in the way you would expect.
In fact, trying to give him an exceptional gift early on can actually have a detrimental effect on the relationship!
Here’s why:
Often, a man doesn’t take a contribution from you as the gift that you mean it to be.
Many men will actually take your gift-giving as competition! When you bring a gift or experience to him, he’ll be thinking “How am I going to out-do this?”
He’s not actually interested in receiving something from you, instead what he’s interested in is knowing if he’s measuring up to the man you want him to be!
And you can best demonstrate that he’s measuring up through your expression of satisfaction with him, through your smiles, your appreciation, your acknowledgement, and your admiration of him when he gets you something you love.
You might scare him off and make things awkward (especially if you met through online dating).
If you’ve only recently gotten together with a man, there’s a danger of coming off too strong if you give him a one-month anniversary gift.
If a guy thinks you’re falling in love faster than he’s falling in love with you, most men will feel an urge and instinct to pull back.
Even if you give him a spectacular gift, it might leave him thinking “Wow, she’s really falling for me but I don’t feel as strongly, and I don’t want to hurt her!”
So the best thing you can do at the one-month mark is let your man lead the emotional pace.
Sometimes guys are slower at understanding exactly how they feel in the relationship, and you might get there a little faster, but that doesn’t mean he won’t ever get there, he just needs a little extra time.
So instead of making him pull away, let him lead the emotional pace, let him shower you with the gifts, and you’ll see the effect it has on him to see he’s providing you with things you love.
But If I Don’t Get Him Something Now, Won’t It Make Anniversary Gifts Awkward In Future?
One of my Manifest Your Man clients recently learned about this principle of letting her man lead the emotional space.
She told me her man bought her a huge bouquet of flowers and took her to Lake Tahoe for their anniversary. As instructed, she didn’t get him anything, but when I asked her if he complained, she said, “Not at all. In fact, he LOVED the weekend that he created for me.”
So here you can see, even with this great gift from her man, it was enough for him to just feel her appreciation in return and to know he was doing a great job!
Now if you’d like more support with dating like my client above, or you have greater relationship struggles than celebrating your first month anniversary…
I invite you to check out my Manifest Your Man program!
Not only is it jam packed with useful (and sometimes unexpected) tips on how to attract a high quality man and form a blossoming relationship…
It also gives you a place to join hundreds of other like-minded women in a supportive community, all sharing their knowledge with each other and helping each other create the love life of their dreams!
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Before you go today, I’d love to hear your take on this ‘no gift’ concept after one month of dating.
What are your thoughts?
Go ahead and post in the comment section below.
Eriko
Wow I really love learning about men’s psychology. I had no idea how man are thinking as follow:
“Many men will actually take your gift-giving as competition! When you bring a gift or experience to him, he’ll be thinking “How am I going to out-do this?”
“If a guy thinks you’re falling in love faster than he’s falling in love with you, most men will feel an urge and instinct to pull back.”
“Even if you give him a spectacular gift, it might leave him thinking “Wow, she’s really falling for me but I don’t feel as strongly, and I don’t want to hurt her!”
I love giving and it got amplified especially after I became a mother. lol But after learning how actually “receptive & appreciative” feminine that ignites men that I am consciously biting my tongue and trying to stay in my feminine space not to take actions. But you are so right I am noticing how much men’s energy expands when I simply say “thank you” with a smile to them for whatever they say or do for me than me doing anything for them. This is a game-changer. I started to enjoy being in this space because basically I don’t have to do anything. lol Less I do & staying in my feminine space and let men do and give me love works. So thank you very much for this teaching!!!