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Lauren Brollier Newton

Welcome to the abundant coach. I’m your host Lauren brilliant Newton. This is a weekly podcast about creating full spectrum success with a thriving coaching business while making a profound difference in the world. Each week you’ll discover insights, strategies and inspiration to help you attract your ideal clients, facilitate real transformation in their lives, and grow your coaching business while living your purpose.

 

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Lauren Brollier Newton

The true freedom and fulfillment.

 

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Lauren Brollier Newton

Welcome back to the abundant coach Lauren. Brilliant Newton here. So thrilled to have you. So thrilled to have this time together. Where you’re learning how to grow your business, your coaching business, or you’re discovering about becoming a coach in a way that feels good to you. So one of my big missions on this podcast is get rid of this hustle, Slay.

 

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Lauren Brollier Newton

Wake up at two in the morning culture. Unless you love that. Like, here’s the thing. If you love that, you feel like your life is super expansive and full spectrum success comes from that place for you. I always want to encourage you. I can’t know what’s right for you, of course. And yet I feel like we have been living in a culture, especially as entrepreneurs, as this hard work paradigm is the only way to be successful.

 

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Lauren Brollier Newton

And what I know is that energy goes where it’s directed. Look at where energy goes in a water pipeline or a wire. In electricity. It goes where it’s direct and you take that same energy and you just disperse it with no structure. It just disperses. So energy, one structure, and it’ll go where it’s directed. So if you direct your own human energy that in order to be successful, I have to hustle, I have to sleep, I have to wake up at two in the morning.

 

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Lauren Brollier Newton

That’s what you will have to do because the energy is just going to follow your lead. Early on in my coaching business, I decided I was not going to do it that way. There was no part of me that was going to get joy out of working 14 or 15 hour days anymore. I did that as a teacher.

 

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Lauren Brollier Newton

I’m like, I’m done. No, don’t want to do that anymore. Now I want to make it very clear as we get into this episode, this doesn’t mean that I’m not working. This doesn’t mean that I’m not putting my soul force into my coaching business. It doesn’t mean that on certain occasions when there’s a big launch coming or a big workshop coming up, I’m not working longer days.

 

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Lauren Brollier Newton

I’m not claiming or professing any of that. But as a general rule, do I want to hustle, say, wake up at four in the morning and do all that stuff? No. In fact, I prefer a leisurely morning. So you see what I’m saying here? You got to know what’s right for you. But I want to be very clear that I don’t believe we have to do that stuff in order to be successful.

 

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Lauren Brollier Newton

We can direct our energy in a different way. We can say something such as I’m so happy and grateful now that I’m working 25 hours a week making more than I’ve ever made in my life. And we direct the energy that way. And then the questions that match 25 hours a week and double what I’ve ever made in my life are going to come to us.

 

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Lauren Brollier Newton

That’s the deal. So this episode let me get into the actual episode now. I ran into over Soapbox Dud. Let me get into this actual episode. So the title of this episode is Self Care for Coaches. Why doing Less Accomplishes More. And I want to talk a little bit deeper on that title in a moment, too. But in this episode of Self Care for Coaches, I always like to share a quote at the beginning to get you to ponder sort of a theme episode.

 

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Lauren Brollier Newton

So here it is. This is probably one of my top ten favorite quotes of all time. It says Everyone should spend 15 minutes a day in nature and if you’re busy, make it an hour. So that’s an unknown author. Some people say it’s a Zen saying. Some people say, I know an author. Let me read it one more time.

 

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Lauren Brollier Newton

Everyone should spend 15 minutes a day in nature. And if you’re busy, make it an hour. So here’s the deal with that. This is why I love to live by this quote Many, many people, not just coaches. People in general don’t even take 5 minutes to breathe or relax during a day. It’s like busy, busy, busy morning, noon and night that is just not conducive to peace and harmony and balance in the human energy system, period.

 

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Lauren Brollier Newton

So the suggestion here is everybody should spend 50 minutes a day in nature when I think of the word nature. Yes, it can be outside. Yes, it can be in the middle of the redwoods. But I think it’s spending 15 quiet minutes, 15 minutes of something that nourishes your soul. And then it goes on to say, but if you’re busy, make it an hour.

 

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Lauren Brollier Newton

In other words, many of us, when we’re busy, everything goes out the window self-care, nourishment, food, whatever it is that we’re doing to nurture ourselves that goes out the window, it tends to go out the window when we’re busy. So this quote is saying, If you’re busy, create even more time in nature. I’ll give you a perfect example of this.

 

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Lauren Brollier Newton

I had a big workshop here in Wyoming where I live in the summer of 2023, the day before the workshop. Often I’d be working with my team, making sure we have everything set, making sure the venues ready, the teams good to go. These in-person workshops I would stream hybrid so there might be 50 or 60 people that would come in-person to Wyoming, and then we would stream the event virtually to a couple hundred more people worldwide.

 

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Lauren Brollier Newton

And so day before the event busy, we got a big event coming up. It’s a three day event. There’s lots of people come and lots of people depending on me. I could be telling that story for sure. So that day, the day before the workshop, I decided that the best thing for me to do was go and ride my horse and all the hard work or be old paradigms in me wanted to be like, You can’t go do that when you’ve got all this stuff to do.

 

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Lauren Brollier Newton

But here’s what I know. When I ride my horse, I feel more connected to God’s spirit, nature infinite, I’m probably than anywhere else. It’s a very meditative process for me. It’s a very connected process for me. The Lauren who’s given herself the space to do that, is going to perform over the next three days. I’m teaching, I’m selling, I’m supporting people, I’m being compassionate, I’m holding the event.

 

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Lauren Brollier Newton

I’m the CEO of the business. So I’m the stakeholder. That person being nourished, being connected to spirit. Way more creative, way better performance than the lawn. Who would have said, No, I can’t do that. I can’t do anything for myself. I get to go rush around and pretend like I’m super busy and worry about things is going to have a different result.

 

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Lauren Brollier Newton

And that’s what this episode is all about, that this idea of self-care. Now, I think the word self-care is kind of overused. I don’t want to say overused, but it’s like it’s such a deep topic and sometimes I think it gets reduced to like, let’s just light a candle, let’s just light a candle and everything will be better.

 

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Lauren Brollier Newton

And I think it’s so much deeper than that. So hopefully this episode will take you deeper then. You’ve heard about self-care. But it’s really the ability, I think the self-care or whatever word you want to put on it, this, you know, 15 minutes a day in nature. If you’re busy making an hour, is really about honoring the spirit, honoring the soul, so that you can be a conduit to this creative work that you do.

 

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Lauren Brollier Newton

I think this goes across all areas of our life. We do. We really think so. Let’s for the moms out there, do we really think we’re going to be better moms if we just suffer and get pissed off at everybody because we don’t have any time to ourselves? Like, is that really making us a better mom? I know that we’ve bought into this cultural thing of I don’t have time in my shop to myself.

 

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Lauren Brollier Newton

I don’t even have time for a shower. But like, do we really believe that that decision is making our family better? I don’t think deep down we actually believe that. It’s just that our subconscious mind has got filled so much, whether it’s as entrepreneurs, as parents, as caretakers, whatever it is, that if I just work harder, if I just suffer more, somehow that’s just going to make everything better.

 

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Lauren Brollier Newton

And it’s B.S. It’s not. We can see the evidence of that. So let’s talk about hard work for a second. I would call it the hard work paradigm that somehow if I just work hard enough, I’m going to create some sort of total expansion in my life, whether it’s in my career, my coaching business, If I just push harder in my family, if I just push harder, somehow I’m going to be successful.

 

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Lauren Brollier Newton

But here is the thing. You want to talk about rags to riches stories. You might look at my story as one of my go from going through divorce, being in a ton of debt, living in my parents basement to owning a multimillion dollar company. But any rags to riches story that you look at, it’s not just working hard.

 

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Lauren Brollier Newton

If working hard were all that it took to create a real deep, full spectrum success like we always talk about on the show, everybody in the world would be more successful because most people in the world would work hard. If you look at people who are struggling with money, struggling with relationships, are some of them just, you know, sitting on their ass doing nothing?

 

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Lauren Brollier Newton

Of course. And yet most people on this planet are working hard. They’re doing everything they know how to do. And we can see that that doesn’t equal success. So why do we think we can see it with our naked eye? That doesn’t work. That doesn’t work for everybody. My parents, my grandparents, they worked hard all their lives. No.

 

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Lauren Brollier Newton

Are they doing okay? Absolutely. But did they get rich? You know, Do they have tons of vacations and free time and abundance and all that? No, but they worked so hard. And so we can see it’s not just hard work. That is not just it’s not that that’s not a small part of the equation, but it’s not the equation.

 

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Lauren Brollier Newton

The equation for actually creating the quantum leaps. The thing we look at and go, Wow, that person really busted out of nowhere has nothing to do with working harder. It actually has to do with tapping into that spirit side of your nature, infinite side of your nature, God, life, whatever word you want to put on it. Infinite intelligence, universe waves and particles, higher self, whatever word you want to put on it, it’s tapping into that and then acting from that place in your energetic body that creates the quantum leaps and actually, in my opinion, that’s why self-care so important, because I don’t believe I’m going to get to my deathbed, put my head on the

 

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Lauren Brollier Newton

pillow some last time and be like, I’m glad I laid by the pool for the equivalent of like eight years. I don’t think that I require that much self-care, that much just relaxing time because I feel very fueled by my work, which I know many of you do as well. There’s this place that we can operate from, where we connect to that side of ourselves.

 

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Lauren Brollier Newton

It really is a it’s a it’s a you and you with your mind, we connect to that side of ourselves and we discover what it is that’s going to feel life giving to us and happy and nourishing. And it’s the ideas that you get there that will be some of the best ideas that really pull you to those quantum leaps.

 

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Lauren Brollier Newton

So let’s talk a little bit about this stress overwhelm, push energy that some of us encounter feel experience. I’ve just proven, I think that that doesn’t necessarily create success. I think I’ve given you lots of reasons to say, yeah, do it, just keep doing that is not going to create success. It’s something that as a coach now, it’s like really nail it down to being a coach, whatever kind of go to our life coach, health coach.

 

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Lauren Brollier Newton

I think there is a great value on your life being an experiment for the work that you teach. I know that there’s some scientists, the names I can come through right now, but they experiment on themselves and they go down in history because they do these experiments on themselves. I think it’s practice owners as coaches. It’s very much in alignment to do the types of experiments you’re asking your clients to do with yourself, not perfectly, not like you’re going to be perfect at this.

 

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Lauren Brollier Newton

I’m not perfect with this. You’ve heard me sometimes on this podcast talk about my little me moments where I, you know, go off on something. I would not recommend it to a client. But living what you teach is one great way to catapult your results because if you actually live what you teach as much as you can, as endeavoring as much as you can to live what you teach, you’re going to have so many examples, stories, tools, revelations, things that you can share with your clients that are uniquely yours, that are your sole blueprint.

 

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Lauren Brollier Newton

And the reason is your clients will have with you because you’re in it with them, but a step ahead enough to come back and tell these stories and tell these tools. I believe that in terms of success will catapult you further than anything when you’re living proof of the work. What better marketing or advertisement could you have than that?

 

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Lauren Brollier Newton

And I’m not saying that your results are perfect. I’m not saying that you have millions of dollars and everything’s just rosy colored glasses. But when you’re the person who comes in and demonstrates living the work and is able to talk about it and share about it, that resonance, that connection that people have with you will absolutely catapult you.

 

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Lauren Brollier Newton

Let me share a story of someone who did an experiment in their own life. Many of you will know of this person. His name was Henry David Thoreau. He’s one of the founders of the Transcendentalist movement with Ralph Waldo Emerson, Nathaniel Hawthorne, and all these other guys and gals. Margaret Fuller, who hung out in the mid 1800s asking really big questions about life.

 

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Lauren Brollier Newton

And at one point, Henry David Thoreau, the youngest, the younger of the group. He was 44 when he died. So, you know, he’s in his thirties doing these experiments. And he says to Emerson and some of the others, I don’t want to just talk about the philosophy now. We’re talking about it, we’re writing about it. I want to actually go discover, Go Live the experiment.

 

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Lauren Brollier Newton

Emerson lets him rent a little cottage that he had on Walden Pond. I don’t know if it was the cottage or just the land itself, but the experiment Henry David Thoreau wanted to do, and these are my words now, not his, but the experiment he wanted to do was How do you feel alive every day of your life?

 

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Lauren Brollier Newton

Not just on Christmas morning or on a roller coaster. Again, these are my words now. But Henry David Thoreau writes, I wanted to suck the marrow out of life, and I didn’t want to find out when I came to die that I hadn’t really lived. And so Thoreau goes out to this plot of land and on Walden Pond, he was living in Concord, Massachusetts.

 

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Lauren Brollier Newton

This is, you know, a ways away. It’s not like he’s driving a car at this point. This is the 1800s a ways away from town. He goes out. He lives in the woods by if by himself for two years, two months and two days to do this experiment with life. How do I feel alive every day? How do I feel this sense of aliveness in myself?

 

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Lauren Brollier Newton

So this is the equivalent of us as coaches doing an experiment with our mice. If I’m a health coach, what experiment I am I doing around my if I’m a life coach, what experiment might do that? If I’m a mindset coach, what experiment am I doing with that? And I know I’m going to just pause for a moment, say you’re like, What does this have to do with self care?

 

00;15;25;05 – 00;15;43;10

Lauren Brollier Newton

I’m getting there. I’m getting there. So Henry David goes, two years, two months and two days out into the woods to live deliberately, as he said. And he does this experiment with life and what he finds out he was not a recluse at this time. He even though he was living in the woods, he would still go into town and be a bachelor like his mother did.

 

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Lauren Brollier Newton

His laundry is documented. So he does this experiment after this two years, two months and two days. He writes his famous quote. And in the essay, Walden, the famous quote is, If one goes confidently in the direction of their dreams, endeavoring to live the life they are imagining, one will pass an invisible boundary and meet with a success unexpected in common ours a success unexpected in coming hours.

 

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Lauren Brollier Newton

It’s not expected for someone to go from rags to riches. That’s why we love those stories, because it’s not common. So Henry David Thoreau. It’s interesting that he finds the code to a life of success by going and living in the woods. Why? Because he gives himself the space and time to connect with the part of himself that is more than conditioned, more than busyness, more than career and download ideas.

 

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Lauren Brollier Newton

From this side of his nature. It was said that he never locked the door of his cabin, but he always locked the desk because that’s where all his ideas and work lived. Henry David Thoreau had three chairs in his tiny little cabin. I’ve been to the cup replica of his cabin. It’s probably the size of this office. I’m sitting in here bed three chairs in the desk, one chair for himself, one chair.

 

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Lauren Brollier Newton

If anybody came to visit him and the other chair was left empty. So that masters of the past that he wanted to connect to in spirit, Socrates or Jesus or, you know, whoever energetically he wanted to connect with in meditation, he could go to those places and that person would sit in a chair and connect with him. Very spiritual.

 

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Lauren Brollier Newton

In fact, I keep a chair. I keep this little chair on my desk to remind myself the empty chair is a symbol for me of spirit life, higher self wisdom that I can’t get if I’m just rushing around answering emails. So I share the Henry David Thoreau story with you to share the success that Henry David Thoreau created in his life as a thinker and a philosopher didn’t come from being busy, came from going out in the woods and deliberately living what he was teaching.

 

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Lauren Brollier Newton

He’s tells Emerson, I don’t want to just be a philosopher. I want to go live this thing that I’m saying. So when you live what you teach as a coach, you’re in my mind doing what a great experiment with life. It’s going to attract more clients to you. It’s going to create resonance, but you’re also living in integrity because I don’t think any of you would advise your clients.

 

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Lauren Brollier Newton

Yeah, I think you should work really hard and stress yourself out and get super burnt out and like, push harder and like, that’s my solution for you. Like, not none of us as coaches would ever say that. And yet how easily we fall into that trap. So let’s be aware of it. So how do you move then from push energy to flow energy?

 

00;18;26;06 – 00;18;48;06

Lauren Brollier Newton

Because I don’t want to just be a philosopher either. I want to give you guys real practical, easy tools that you can use to apply these things in your life. And here’s what I know, and I learned this from my mentor at the Institute, Kirsten Wells, who’s a master of energy and the energetics of transformation. When you notice yourself in that push energy, how do you notice it?

 

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Lauren Brollier Newton

You got a knot in your stomach, you feel busy, you feel like, I’ve got to get this done. There’s a lot of busyness. RUSH Stress, energy, even just saying to yourself, I’ve got to figure this out activates the nervous system. I have to figure this out. It’s like I’m going to die if I don’t figure this out. It’s like stressful.

 

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Lauren Brollier Newton

And so when you notice yourself in any of those kind of modes, it’s going to be a busy day. I got to go check my email. All of that is push energy. It’s not that you’re not going to check your email when you’re in flow energy. You just don’t have to be busy about it. So when you feel those types of feelings, busy, stressed, overwhelmed, rushing, got to get this done.

 

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Lauren Brollier Newton

Have do pushing myself. You’re actually going notice that because you have an observer, there’s an observer self. You can observe yourself, you can notice your thoughts, notice your body, notice your feelings. And when you observe yourself in that energy, you’re going to pause and you’re going to breathe in through your nose and then out through your mouth like you’re blowing through a straw.

 

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Lauren Brollier Newton

Why? It resets your nervous system. It brings it back to rest, digest, create. Sometimes if you’ve been really stressed, you might have to do this kind of breathing for like up to 5 minutes to really relax yourself. But you notice that you just 60 breath in through the nose, out of your mouth. You and then you generate the state that you would love to be in.

 

00;20;13;07 – 00;20;31;09

Lauren Brollier Newton

If you want to be in flow, you just in that moment say to yourself, I’m so happy The steam is flowing and it feels creative and there’s a space joyousness to it. And I feel like a little butterfly moving from activity to activity with peace and beauty and ease. I don’t know what you’re going to say to yourself.

 

00;20;31;09 – 00;20;57;13

Lauren Brollier Newton

I don’t know what your dreams are, but you generate the thought that translates to flow because thoughts become feelings. We’ve made feeling so sexy. But really, if I’m feeling stress, it’s just because I’ve been thinking stressful thoughts. Maybe today or maybe for a long time. But if I’m feeling stressed, it’s likely because I’ve been thinking thoughts that match that.

 

00;20;57;16 – 00;21;36;06

Lauren Brollier Newton

So if I’m going to generate flow, I’m going to think thoughts that match flow. Because as I started this episode with Energy goes where it’s directed, it takes me noticing that I’m not in flow, that I’m getting into this busy, busy, stressful energy, passing myself, breathing and recalibrating. In the beginning. If you’re someone who hasn’t really done that before or has maybe heard about it but not experimented with it, you’re going to have to do that 20 times a day, 30 times a day, 50 times a day to start to train yourself, to not react in that busy, stressful manner.

 

00;21;36;09 – 00;21;58;26

Lauren Brollier Newton

So how do we do this in a way of self-care? Now I’m noticing. So that’s I’m noticing stressful, busy, overwhelmed thoughts. But you can also notice thoughts and decisions and actions that you’re taking in your life that equal that suffering energy, that doing too much energy that I can’t take a break energy. So I’m just laughing because I know you can’t tell in the video.

 

00;21;58;26 – 00;22;14;28

Lauren Brollier Newton

But at the recording of this podcast, I’m nine months pregnant. You can’t see it. You can’t see it if you’re watching this on video. But I’m nine months pregnant and the recording of this podcast and lots of people have been telling me, okay, when the baby comes, don’t feel like you have to do the dishes, don’t feel like you have to do the laundry or clean.

 

00;22;14;28 – 00;22;32;26

Lauren Brollier Newton

Just let yourself relax. I’m like, I never feel like I have to do the dishes or laundry anyway. Like I would I would shovel horse manure in a barn all day long in order to not have to clean my house. I know that sounds nuts, but like, I will, I will work any job in order to have somebody else clean my house or do these things.

 

00;22;32;26 – 00;22;54;08

Lauren Brollier Newton

So makes me laugh. And people like, oh, you know, just relax on the baby. Come. Oh, I will have no problem with that. I already do that. So self care, why do I allow myself to do that? I allow myself to do that because I know that renewing the part of me that does get tired, my body sometimes, my mind relaxing, whatever that looks like to me.

 

00;22;54;08 – 00;23;27;17

Lauren Brollier Newton

For some of you, it’s going to be reading a book, watching TV, bingeing, Netflix, going outside of nature. Don’t judge yourself for the way that you relax yourself. That if you cause yourself to do that, you’re going to be way more creative when it’s time to do the work. So self-care, why doing less actually equals more so I’m going to give you an example of you don’t have to have constant scheduling of yourself in order to be successful in business.

 

00;23;27;19 – 00;23;50;12

Lauren Brollier Newton

Let me give you one of my favorite examples of this. This is back in like 2019. So I’m a year into my coaching business and I decided that year I’m a year end that I wanted to have more speaking engagements because for me, speaking engagements converted beautifully into clients that I could serve. So I made a goal at the beginning of the year that I would like to have 24 speaking engagements in 2019.

 

00;23;50;12 – 00;24;10;01

Lauren Brollier Newton

That would be two speaking engagements a month, not including the workshops that I was hosting on my own. And so I did a process that my mentor, Mary Morrissey, taught me. And the process is basically that you come up with a question, you generate every idea you can think of, and then you pick out the idea that jumps off the page or brings you some life.

 

00;24;10;03 – 00;24;27;03

Lauren Brollier Newton

So I’m just hanging out. I was still living at my parents house, hanging out, and I write the question, What steps can I take to generate 24 speaking engagements this year? And I write down every idea I can think of. And the one that jumped off the page on me was post your blog on LinkedIn. Now, at that time I wasn’t really using LinkedIn.

 

00;24;27;06 – 00;24;42;14

Lauren Brollier Newton

I did blog all the time. Like I turned my emails that I would send to my list into a little blog that I would post on my website. And so post the blog on LinkedIn, like the Logical Mind wants to go, What is that going to do? What does that have to do with a speaking engagement? But I just did it because it jumped off the page.

 

00;24;42;14 – 00;24;58;12

Lauren Brollier Newton

Again, I’m not into working hard notice. I didn’t do everything on the list. I didn’t pick every idea. I just picked the one that gave me some energy. I’m like, okay, I’ll do now posts on LinkedIn. And this guy reaches out to me on LinkedIn, who’s also a coach, more of an executive coach, and he says, Hey, we have a connected in a while.

 

00;24;58;14 – 00;25;21;16

Lauren Brollier Newton

Do you want to go to coffee? And like, Yeah, so we go to coffee, his colleagues and before we go to get to coffee, I had this memory that he organizes a leadership summit and I’m guessing that he organizes the speakers. So I’m like, Oh my gosh, this could be this could be the thing. This leadership summit could be how I get one of these 24 hour speaking engagements.

 

00;25;21;19 – 00;25;38;11

Lauren Brollier Newton

So now I’m terrified. I’m like, I’m going to ask this guy for speaking engagement. I haven’t really done a ton of speaking engagements. I’m going to ask him to do this leadership summit and I’m too big for my britches. I’m like, just all this all these fear thoughts. But this is how it works when I talk about you don’t need to overwork to have a quantum leap.

 

00;25;38;13 – 00;26;09;16

Lauren Brollier Newton

I ask myself one question. I take one idea, I write one blog. I’m in the energy of it. I go to coffee, I take action on the result that happens. And now I’m going to ask him about speaking. Because when an idea comes from this state of more of a self care state or a more spacious state, it’s not like money’s just going to, you know, shop at your doorstep or client who’s going to show up at your doorstep and you’re mostly going to be generating a creative ideas that you then act upon from this flow state.

 

00;26;09;18 – 00;26;27;13

Lauren Brollier Newton

So I go to this coffee and I’m like, Oh my gosh, you have to ask him more and you can’t chicken out. So we’re getting toward the end of coffee and I say, you know, I know you’re hosting a leadership summit and I would love to serve your audience. So if I can speak or open up the morning with some inspiration, I would just absolutely love to serve your audience.

 

00;26;27;13 – 00;26;47;23

Lauren Brollier Newton

If you think that that would be helpful. And after all that fear about asking him, he said to me, You would do that for us. Like as if I was some, you know, super sought after speaker. I’m like, Yeah, I would love to do that for you. So I get that speaking engagement. But then here’s where the crazy thing happens and here’s where I know it doesn’t take harder work to create a quantum leap.

 

00;26;47;28 – 00;27;05;22

Lauren Brollier Newton

You can actually do less and accomplish more. He says to me, Why do you like speaking so much? And he was older. He was probably like, I would guess in his late sixties, maybe early seventies, and I was in my early thirties at the time. And so he says, Why do you love speaking so much? And I just tell him from the heart, I love helping people.

 

00;27;05;22 – 00;27;25;12

Lauren Brollier Newton

I love knowing that something that I shared might be life changing for them. I love sharing an idea that creates a spark, and I just, you know, share why I love speaking. And he says, you know, I’m getting toward retirement and I have 18 speaking engagements this year that I don’t want. Would you like to do it? I’m like, Would I like to do it?

 

00;27;25;13 – 00;27;45;28

Lauren Brollier Newton

Yes. So I leave that coffee, having not won speaking engagement that I didn’t even know if I was going to be able to get or attract. But I left with 19 out of 24 speaking engagements by asking one question and acting upon it and taking the bold move. And I’ve had many of these in my coaching career where I love myself.

 

00;27;45;28 – 00;28;18;29

Lauren Brollier Newton

Spaciousness. I ask a question, I get creative, I find an idea. I don’t give myself a long asked to do list. I just give myself one action, believing that it should just take one action to create a highly thriving coaching business. So I went a little bit all over the map today, but I know and I believe and I’m deeply going to just trust and hold that it’s for your greatest good that you heard something today that’s absolutely going to transform the way you’ve been navigating self-care your business, the way you’ve been thinking about being busy.

 

00;28;19;01 – 00;28;34;24

Lauren Brollier Newton

So to end with a quote, I started with because I think it’s so powerful, everyone should spend 15 minutes a day in nature, and if you’re busy, make it an hour. I love you all so much. I’ll see you on the next episode.

 

00;28;34;27 – 00;28;45;06

Lauren Brollier Newton

Thanks for joining me this week on The Abundant Coach. Visit our Web site at Brave Thinking Institute dot com slash coach dash certification where you can dive even deeper with additional.

 

00;28;45;06 – 00;28;46;03

Lauren Brollier Newton

Resources and.

 

00;28;46;03 – 00;29;11;21

Lauren Brollier Newton

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00;29;11;23 – 00;29;13;20

Lauren Brollier Newton

I’ll see you in the next episode.