Little-Known Advice To Avoid Early Dating Mistakes, Attract Your Man Faster, And Build A Healthy Relationship

“Will I ever find love?”

There’s no escaping Valentine’s Day. Everywhere you look, there are red and pink heart decorations, chocolates on sale, and flowers… 

It can seem like it’s all there just to remind you how painfully single you are. 

You’ve tried everything to find a partner, but you have no idea how to find love… 

Especially, how to find love in 2024.  

These days you find yourself braving the storms of online dating – including (but not limited to) creating dating app profiles, scouting the social media accounts of potential partners, and figuring out if these guys are after long term relationships or just a hookup.

Despite it all, I assure you – you can find your love (and keep then, too!)

Keep reading for 17 dating tips for women that can greatly improve your love life. We’ll talk about simple, yet powerful tweaks you can make to avoid early dating mistakes, spot red flags on time, and exponentially increase your chances of finding love. 

Let’s get started!

#1: Don’t Get Excited About Someone You’re About to Go Out With

You’re probably thinking, “What do you mean, don’t get excited? I finally met someone amazing!”

Feeling excited about someone new is normal. However, did you know that excitement is actually a vibration of scarcity?

The only time we get excited is when we’re getting something that we don’t have in our lives. Meaning that we’re in a vibration of “lacking” love… which attracts more lack!

A much more welcoming vibration is gratitude. Gratitude is harmonious with abundance, so it attracts more of that which you are grateful for (in this case, love.) 

#2: Forget the “Golden Rule”

Most of us have been raised to live by the “golden rule” – do unto others as you would have them do unto you. Makes sense, right? Not in relationships.

In a relationship, you ideally want to replace the golden rule with the “platinum rule” – do unto others as they want done unto them.

Why is this important?

Often, what your partner wants and needs from your relationship is not the same as what you want and need. Understanding this will help you create healthier, more balanced relationships in the long run. 

#3: Connect with People You are NOT Attracted to

Oftentimes, people tend to put themselves into a box and call it their “type”. They end up waiting until they meet someone who checks all the boxes on a long list of requirements, instead of leaning into connection and exploring potential compatibility wherever they are.

Instead, chat with the person in the line with you at the grocery store. Strike up a conversation with the people around you at your local coffee shop. Talk to people, flirt with people, have fun, banter back and forth.

This way, when someone comes along that you’re attracted to, it’s second nature to include them in the conversation… and this will enable you to build a connection much more quickly.

Or, you might just surprise yourself with who you end up feeling a spark with!

#4 Love Yourself First

Sure, finding the partner you’re looking for would be great. But he’s not going to replace the true source of love in your life – YOU.

When you love yourself, you radiate love, and become an energetic match to the frequency of love… 

Attracting the right person into your life much faster!

#5 Stop Appearing Desperate

This is one of the most common dating mistakes I see women making when they finally find a guy they’re interested in. 

While it’s natural to pay attention to this new person in your life, you may be inadvertently giving him signals that you’re desperate.

How? By dropping everything just to be with him!

Spending time together is crucial to nurturing your bond, but don’t cancel plans with friends and family because he texted you last minute.

#6 Break Through Your Love Blocks

Attracting your man isn’t just about using the right texting prompts or selecting the perfect pictures for your online profile… 

What’s truly keeping you stuck is at a deeper level – your subconscious programming, or as I like to call them, your love blocks.    

Releasing these limiting beliefs is the fastest way to manifest love in your life!

#7 Shift Your Perception Around “Failure”

In the early stages, it can be discouraging to go out on countless dates that go nowhere. It can feel like “failure.”

But the truth is, that to find the right guy, you must turn down the wrong ones. And the faster you do it, the better! 

So next time you’re feeling down because things didn’t go as planned, remember: you’re getting closer to the man you’re looking for. 

#8 Let Him Step Into His Masculine Energy

Something that will make you stand out in the eyes of a man is when he gets to step into his masculine energy when he’s with you. 

How do you do that? Allow him to take the lead. 

Let him plan outings, choose the restaurant, and come up with solutions to a problem. Showing him that you trust him enough to lead will light him up and he’ll want to pour into you even more. 

#9 Put Aside Your Fear Of Rejection

I know rejection stings. Yet, if you only approach people when you’re certain they won’t reject you, you’ll greatly limit the circle of potential candidates.

So don’t bottle up your attention and your goodwill. Take a chance, and talk with everyone. Share your attention with others, and be a person of increase everywhere you go.

#10 Let Him Know Your Intentions Early On 

You may think that if you tell your date that you want a long-term relationship, you’ll scare him off… 

And that’s exactly what we want.

Because the guys that ran away were never the right match for you anyway. Do yourself a favor and be upfront about your intentions. It will save you lots of time and heartbreak!

#11 Celebrate Him

Men love the feeling of accomplishment, knowing that they succeeded. The more something (or someone) matters to them, the bigger the payoff. 

This means that an easy way to boost your man’s emotional state is to celebrate him when he’s done something to support you, bring you happiness, or wow you. He’ll feel great about himself AND he’ll want to do it more often. It’s a win-win! 

#12 Believe What He Tells You

Did he tell you he has commitment issues, or perhaps that he works too much? Believe him. 

Many women dismiss comments like these, telling themselves it probably isn’t so bad. Or that because he’s aware of it, he can (or wants to) change. As a result, they end up in relationships that were doomed from the start.

It’s better to pay attention to the information he reveals at the beginning when the stakes are low, rather than trying to change him when you’ve become attached.

#13 Polish Your Communication Skills

Every relationship expert out there agrees on one thing: if you want your relationship to go the distance, you must learn healthy communication skills.

Learn active listening and be fully present when your partner is sharing something with you. Demonstrate your interest in what he has to say – he’ll appreciate that you care about the things important to him.

#14 Stay True To Yourself

Many women make the mistake of agreeing with everything a guy says if they want him to like her. They bend over backwards to appear compatible, but this is not a solid ground for real connection. Not to mention, he can quickly lose interest this way. 

Show him who you really are, stay true to yourself, and have fun. The right guy will love you for you!

#15 Speak His Love Language

According to Dr. Gary Chapman, there are 5 ways people show love. These are called love languages. 

The thing is, everybody has a “primary language” they prefer to receive love. Find out your man’s love language and express affection that way. This will deepen your bond and foster true intimacy.

#16 Learn How To Make Amends

Falling in love is one thing – building a healthy relationship for the long run is another.

One of the critical skills you need to create a lifelong love story is conflict repair. Disagreements or rifts can happen at the beginning as well, and learning how to apologize the right way can make your relationship stronger.

#17 Set Clear Boundaries

Know your worth and your non-negotiables. Be honest with yourself and get clear on what your standards are, so you can own them and communicate them to the guy you’re dating. 

Whether it’s about kissing on the first date, sleeping together, or protecting your time and energy, setting clear boundaries is a way to confirm that someone is in alignment with your standards. 

Boundaries will also set you apart from every other woman out there…

When my wife told me she didn’t kiss on the first date, I instantly thought about how I could earn that place in her life, be the man who could give her a kiss.

But as a dating and relationships coach, I know that for most heart-centered women, setting boundaries can feel challenging.

That’s why I’m here with a gift that will shift not just your dating life, but your career, family life, and even your relationship with yourself… 

The Beginner’s Guide to Setting Boundaries: 3 Simple Steps to Start Creating Healthier Relationships with Friends, Family & Yourself – So Your Whole Life Can Thrive!

With this book, you’ll learn the easiest way to discover what your boundaries are, get your needs met, and put yourself first… 

And watch how magnetic you become to the partner you’ve been wanting to attract!