Taking a Deeper Look at How We Celebrate the Most Romantic Day of the Year
In the United States, Valentine’s Day is a special day dedicated to celebrating love. But for many people, it’s a day usually spent either looking for love or analyzing how love is expressed to them.
There are plenty of people who, at the end of the day, find themselves feeling disappointed because they didn’t get the card they expected, the flowers they wanted or the dinner out they were hoping for.
For others, Valentine’s Day is a painful time because everywhere they look, they see couples holding hands, going out to dinner or staring into each other’s eyes.
However, there’s another way to spend Valentine’s Day. And whether or not you have someone special to celebrate with, this is a practice that you can use to have a wonderful, happy Valentine’s Day, no matter what.
1. Know the difference between desire and expectation.
According to OxfordDictionaries.com, desire is a very strong feeling of wanting or wishing for something to happen. Expectation, on the other hand, is a belief that something WILL happen.
Source: https://www.lexico.com/definition/desire
Source: https://www.lexico.com/definition/expectation
In other words, desires are the wants or thoughts projected by you towards the world, whereas expectations are the results you’re expecting back from the world.
It’s perfectly normal to desire love in your life. It’s also perfectly normal to want to deepen a relationship.
But how many times have you been disappointed when things didn’t go the way you expected?
You see, when you hold onto control and the belief that things need to turn out a certain way in order for you to be happy, you give your power away. Your happiness then depends on your circumstances or conditions.
So this first step is to notice exactly what you desire when it comes to love and what you expect.
2. Shift your attention from GET to GIVE.
Valentine’s Day is a beautiful opportunity to turn up the volume on your own expressions of love toward other people, situations and causes that you care about. And just like everything else in your life, you have the ability to choose and create your best Valentine’s Day ever.
So how you do that? You shift your attention from GETTING to GIVING.
If you truly want your Valentine’s Day to be spectacular, the secret is to shift your expectation of receiving love to a desire to give more love.
Every time you notice yourself thinking about what you’re NOT getting, tell yourself,
“My Valentine’s Day this year is all about giving.”
Something almost magical happens when you shift your attention from get to give.
3. Replace your negative, contractive feelings with more positive, expansive ones.
When you find yourself thinking about what you might be missing, feeling disappointed that your partner didn’t do or give something more, not sharing this special day with the love of your life or not experiencing the love you desire, pause for a moment and take a deep breath.
Notice that contractive thought or feeling and remember that the Infinite will give you as much breath as you’re willing to take in. The truth is, you live in a sea of love. You didn’t create yourself – you can’t even make your heart beat one time. There’s something beautiful and sacred happening within you and it’s this thing called life.
Life speaks to us in the language of love.
Today, make the love in your life move through you, drawing from that source. You may want to make some phone calls to people you care about or send some cards of appreciation to people who have made a difference in your life.
Think about what you can do throughout the day to be a person who brings love – because the vibration you bring is the vibration you live in on a daily basis.
When you make the switch from getting to giving love, you will most likely experience your happiest, most loving Valentine’s Day ever.
From my heart to yours, Happy Valentine’s Day!
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Muhammad yaqoob khan
Hi, how can i find one friend in the real movement, how can i trust, because if you look, this world is not have faith with some things,
Jeanne St John
Thanks for this timely reminder that giving is the secret to love! Missing my love of 35 years, but surrounded by loving friends this year.
Aru
Thank you very much dear Mary ☺✌??
Elizabeth Harabin
Happy Valentine’s Day Mary Morrissey.
I love you. I love listening to you.
Thank you for being as you are.
Arturo
Dear Mary,
Thank you so much for sharing this wonderfull ways.However,I feel something is missing ( at least to me ) to follow these nice and good advises. I feel I need to cross a bridge first to reach and follow your great steps to give love when someone is living critical circumstances or conditions. I would like to find that bridge.
Umaro Sheriff
Thank you very much for your time spent on this and all the words used in it i love it and i appreciate you very much for this
Sheryl Murphy
Thank you 🙂
Doris
Thanks Mary I was afraid I would never hear from you again.
Ann
So true. Treating others the way you want to be treated. Give and you will be given. Is this the trick to manifesting more of what we want?
Melonee Moran
Thank you, may your Valentine’s Day be filled with lots of joy and happiness. Happy Valentine’s Day!
Jean noel
Love is something great and beautiful, if you have a partner who can understand you